Dealing With Other People

[brink]

Hi, just one question. How do you respond to people who are oblivious to your child’s disability? This weekend we were in a small town waiting to use the restroom and my son was very squirmy. I didn't hear it, but a man told my mother that she should put a leash on my son to control him. I have a hard time when it comes to dealing with people like this. Does any one have any advice? Thanks to All.

[momofautistic]

brink,
Don't you get sick and tired of people in public places giving you that look (like mygod the parent needs to disipline that kid) Here's what i did.

• Print up double sided business card's that say the following.
• Front side: If you are puzzeled by my childs behavior? it is not boldness nor lack of disipline!!! My child is Autistic....
• Back side: Autism is a life- long neurological disorder that prevents proper understanding of what a person sees, hears or otherwise senses. People with autism often become confused and respond inappropriately in social situations. Autism strikes 20-30 out of every 10,000 people. For more info please contact parent to parent magic [phone]

Cheri

[brink]

Thanks!!! For the response I Love it. My biggest aggravation is for people to label my son as a problem child; when he is one of the strongest people I know. With that said thank you for your time it is so nice to know that someone else understands. But now I have another question. How do you deal with these types of issues when it’s your in-laws? Any good Advice; God knows I could use some. My in-laws only see my children on special occasions (x-mas). This makes it twice as hard because the children are just that much more excited. My husband’s grandmother actually told me one Christmas that if I didn’t work full time and then go back to school, my son wouldn’t be autistic. Not only does this create problems between my husband and I; it makes me feel like a bad parent. I would do anything for my children they make me complete. Help!! Thanks.

Sincerely Yours,

Brink

[momofautistic]

brink,
I can totally relate on that one too. My mother in law is a hospice nurse you would think that she would have a clue but then again unless you live with it day after day it's hard for anyone to really understand. However with the growing rate of cases of autism each year and with more media coverage edgucating more people on what the symptoms are i'm sure in-time society will get better.
My mother in law has recently taken a crash course in living with an autistic child since we have had to temporarly move into their home, but she still doesnt relize that alot of the things that he does for instance humbing all the time or drumming on things is not done to enoy her or cuz of behaviorol issues but infact it fulfill's sensory issues. So I guess the best advice i can give you is to just try an edgucate them on the disablity as best you can and there might not be anything you can do to make them understand because sometimes grandparents go through deniel just like parents do and so its just easier for them to blame the parents. also back in the days before anyone knew what autism was they labeled it as a condition resulting from bad mothering.

brink said:

Thanks!!! For the response I Love it. My biggest aggravation is for people to label my son as a problem child; when he is one of the strongest people I know. With that said thank you for your time it is so nice to know that someone else understands. But now I have another question. How do you deal with these types of issues when it’s your in-laws? Any good Advice; God knows I could use some. My in-laws only see my children on special occasions (x-mas). This makes it twice as hard because the children are just that much more excited. My husband’s grandmother actually told me one Christmas that if I didn’t work full time and then go back to school, my son wouldn’t be autistic. Not only does this create problems between my husband and I; it makes me feel like a bad parent. I would do anything for my children they make me complete. Help!! Thanks.

Sincerely Yours,

Brink

[tara]

;D hi sorry about your son he is so cute