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Post by jacksmom on May 21, 2008 17:10:22 GMT -5
I sure hope I'm doing this right. I'm a little new to these support groups.
I'm so, so tired. My son (almost 3 ) has taken all my energy and then some. I tired of worrying. I worry all the time and instead of enjoying my child, I feel this panic feeling......Have I gotten him enough help? How do I communicate? Blah Blah Blah. The ball is rolling and he should be in the autism preschool in the fall. I'm scared I can't wait that long. I've also got a 7 month old baby on top of having my son. It's like having two babies. My son's behavior has gotten significantly worse over the past month. On the positive side we are getting some awesome verbal communication from him but his tantrums have gotten out of control. There are only so many times you can put your kid in time out. He's obsessed with the TV and keeps handing us the remote until we figure out what he wants to watch because he can't tell us. We've started to leave the TV off because is seems like he can't handle it. Sorry to be such a bummer. I've just had a really bad week.
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Post by wowposter on Nov 6, 2008 22:50:19 GMT -5
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Post by icehause75 on Mar 30, 2009 13:41:01 GMT -5
You and me both, you may not read this, but for everyone else out there with a ASD child(ren) the whole world is Different and I as a single Dad, have to take anxiety medication, to cope sometimes.
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Post by wolfmammy on Apr 19, 2009 12:43:45 GMT -5
I bought a battery-powered bubble blower for my kids. It calms them down when they start getting over stimulated.
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Post by grandma on Dec 9, 2009 18:46:07 GMT -5
My 3 year old grandson was diagnosed with PPD NOS over a year ago. He goes to a special Pre-K after completing an early intervention program last year. His verbal skills are coming along very slowly, but his throwing of things and not listening tantrums are becoming worse. My daughter also has a 8 month baby and works full time as a teacher. She has to bring the kids to daycare and pre-K and go to work almost an hr. away. Her husband is some help, but most of it falls on her. She is starting to feel like she's cracking up and I'm worried for her and all of them. I live in another state and feel helpless. Only support I can give her is over the phone. I told her to join a support group. But the ones they have in her area are during work hours or too far away. Does anyone have any suggestions? Thanks for listening.
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Post by Emsmum on Mar 9, 2010 13:36:51 GMT -5
I am sooo glad that I'm not the only one to feel this way. I'm just sooo tired and I lash out at everyone. I can't take the tantrums any more. We have done so much therapy and I feel like we've made so little progress. I am lucky that my daughter was diagnosed very early on. We have qualified for IBI therapy and are on the insanely long wait list. I in the mean time am in workshop after workshop and seminars galore to learn as much as I can. I feel like I'm burning out...I never get a day off or a min's peace. I totally understand the whole being constantly worried thing. I can't blink for a min.
I am considering the whole med's thing...but that kind of goes against my philosophy of homeopathy. I'm wanting to go out to one of the local parent support groups, but I can't even make those!! I rarely can find a babysitter.
My husband and I never go out any more (the no babysitter thing is a part of that) and we never take our daughter out as it's always a struggle with her in toe. I also can't stand the comments and dirty looks from others..."why can't they control their child"..."my child never acted like that in public"...."how degrading, putting your child on a leash"...[sigh]. I wish I could just have a neon sign above my head..."I AM NOT A BAD PARENT...MY CHILD IS NOT MISBEHAVING...SHE'S AUTISTIC!"
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Post by Tosha on Jul 29, 2010 0:01:40 GMT -5
I completely understand where you are coming from! My daughter is 4 and doesn't transition well. Going out in public is difficult due to her not being verbal either. She throws tantrums because she can't express her needs and wants. I took her shopping and had to put her down to pay and a lady looked at her and said "You're a little too big to be acting like that, aren't you?" Number 1, none of her business. Number 2, you are the goofy one if you have stood next to me for 15 mins and never heard a word come out of her mouth and then you ask a stupid question like that! I get irritated and tired of justifying my daughter to everyone! I don't want to leave her home all the time, so we take her out. She has a 3 year old brother, and I want life to be good for them both. I am also against the medicine at this point, but in order to please the doctor am trying an antipsychotic med. I thought I was going to die when I gave it to her tonight; I feel like a bad mom for even trialing it. Hope things get better. You need time to yourself or you will lose your mind!
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Post by gr84boys on Aug 15, 2010 20:31:51 GMT -5
I am new to this post and really in need of some support from a mom that is going through similar experiences. I am really at the end of my rope of how to handle my son, Aidon. He will be four in early November. His language is exploding but still delayed. All of a sudden he has starting having some of the most violent meltdowns I have ever seen. I have three younger sons that I want to shield the meltdowns from. I am doing this all on my own because their father and I are divorcing. I am sure Aidon is just utterly confused about life, why mommy and daddy are not together anymore, etc. Aidon's meltdowns are so loud, kicks, hits (not too hard to mommy, but starting to get worse). I try to stay calm, but I don't want the other boys to see his meltdown so I send him to his room. He slams the doors over and over again, so I have to lock his door. It is safe, but I feel like I am abandoning him in order to shield the brothers from witnessing his horrific meltdowns. I am just so confused on what to do. His father will not communicate with me. Our ABA therapists say to ignore, stay calm and try to redirect. Sure - that works one-on-one, but when around siblings and tired or hungry...forget it! Any suggestions???
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Post by milly on Aug 17, 2010 21:09:51 GMT -5
I am feeling the same way! I have a four year old PDD and the meltdowns are definitely worse (especially since its summer and he's out of his program until September). He, likewise, has younger and older siblings, and I don't know what to do to shield the younger ones, protect the older ones "stuff" and space and personal boundaries while staying sane myself! Today, we were all trapped in the van together and Isaac kept pulling one of his siblings hair and kicking him from his car seat. I can't pull over on the interstate to "divert" or "distract" or whatever and I feel terrible for my six year old who is getting tortured. That is why I joined the group tonight. I'm about to dig my heels in a research some more. You aren't alone.....
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