Post by loriceleste on Jan 3, 2009 15:36:01 GMT -5
i hope that i am on the right board because i really need to vent the situation is that my teenage autistic child & i live with my parents. no way i could handle her by myself so we have lived with them since she was a baby. i am not financially secure enough to move out & raise her by myself. i do work but at a family business so i bring in a small amount and the $ i get from her check goes to them for rent & what ever. that's not the problem. the problem is that my parents my child's grandparents always tell me that i do nothing right with her. especially when she has outbursts. one of the most recent ones was last night. she was sleeping with some of her fav books & videos & a few of them fell behind the bed. in the middle of the night i was not prepared to pull out the bed or crawl under the bed to retrieve the books & videos that she was not to be sleeping with in the first place. so this sent her off into a major behavior. her grandpa came into the room so i left & she & he fought for about 10 mins she wouldn't let him retrieve them. i finally got a couple of her muscle relaxers that take 20 to 30 mins to work since she was not settling down & was increasing in violence. after i gave her the meds, i sat on the floor where she was screaming trying to calm her since the sight of grandpa was making her even madder & about that time he was bleeding from scratches that she gave him. i did get a few bruises scratches but nothing else & my dad (grandpa) said that i was setting myself up to get hurt again, yes i was but i did not get hurt & he said that he "hoped that i got the sh** beat out of me" & that's when i pushed her off my leg & foot & went into my room & slammed the door. after that she had a small amount of time that she & he fought & yelled at each other. i did not come out of my room until the next day. i did not sleep either since i was crying or mad at him the rest of the night. he & my mom left for work the next morning & i finally got up & my daughter was still sleeping & he called wanting me to get ready for work early so that they could take her & go 100 miles away to see my uncle in the hospital. i told him that my daughter was still sleeping but i was ready to go to work early & if he wanted her to be up & get ready he could wake her up & deal with the crabbiness that she has when she is woke up before she is ready. i was right & she was grumpy so i left her alone but i could tell that he was wanting to get going so i tried to get her up & she started yelling & he again got mad at me telling me not in these words that i don't do anything right with her. but I'm the one who got her dressed because she does not do it herself, all but her shoes & her breakfast he helped her with. i am still upset over this but i do not know how to handle him or her. also he is always telling me that i need to take something like Prozac myself to calm down, but he should look at himself first.